Which Comes First?

This is an age old question. One that I'm not sure has ever really been answered.

This question can also be asked in relationships. Specifically in communicating within those relationships. Which comes first, the way one presents something or the way the other responds? How do you decide which one needs to happen first in order for the relationship to be mended and move forward? Negativity breeds negativity. So which one comes first?

If things are presented in a positive way, there is no reason for the other person to get defensive...the chicken. On the other hand, if something is presented in a negative way, but the other person CHOOSES to not get defensive and instead, reacts in a positive way, the issue should be defused before it gets any further...the egg.

So which comes first? If you figure it out, let me know, would ya? For now...

Be the egg? Don't mind if I do...